What sets certain men and women apart from their peers? What creates a leader, an achiever? How is it that there are so many people in this world who live such joyous lives in spite of almost every adversity, while others who would seem to have it all live lives of despair, anger, and depression?
What’s the difference between the haves and the have-nots? What’s the difference between the cans and the cannot? Why do some people overcome horrible, unimaginable adversity and make their lives a triumph, while others, in spite of every advantage, turn their lives into a disaster? Why do some people take any experience and make it work for them, while others take any experience and make against them? What’s the difference that makes the difference in the quality of life?
The difference all comes down to the way in which we communicate with ourselves and the action we take. What do we do when we try everything we can and things still turn wrong? People who succeed do not have fewer problems than people who fail. The only people without problems are those in cemeteries.
It is not what happens to us that separates failures from successes. It is how we perceive it and what we do about what “happens” that makes the difference. For example, when a man received the information from his body that three-quarters of its was covered with third-degree burns, he had a choice in how to interpret that information. The meaning of this event could have been a reason to die, to grieve, anything else he wants to communication with himself, he formed set of beliefs and values that continued to direct his life from a sense of advantage rather than tragedy—even after he became paralyzed.
Why the success communicates with himself and does specific things to create results. If someone eles is able to wake up in the morning, quickly and easily full of energy, that is the result they produced. The next question is how did they produce it? Since actions are source of all results, what specific mental or physical actions produced the neurophysical process of waking up from sleep quickly and easily? One of the presuppositions of NLP is thing that we all share the same neurology, so if anyone can do anything in the world, you can, too, if you run your nervous system in exactly the same way. This process of discovering exactly and specifically what people do to produce a specific results is called modeling.
If someone finds it easy to wake up in the morning quickly, so can you. Simply model how other people direct their nervous systems. Obviously, some task are more complex than others and may take more time to model and then duplicate. However, if you have enough desire and the belief that will support you while continuing to adjust and change, virtually anything any human being does can be modeled. You may took years to produce similar results or months or in a short period of time to produce similar results.
Modeling is the path way to excellence. It means that if I see anyone in this world producing a result I desire. I can produce the same results if I’m willing to pay the price of time and effort. If you want to achieve success, all you need to do is find a way to model those who already successes. That is, find out what actions they took, specifically how they used their brain and body to produce the results you desire to duplicate. If you want to be a better friend, a richer person, a better parent, a better athlete, a more successful businessman, all you need to-do is find model of excellence.
To model excellence, you become detective, an investigator, someone who asks lots of questions and tracks down all the clues to what produce excellence. Bandler and Grinder found that there are three fundamental ingredients that must be duplicated in order to reproduce and any form of human excellence. They are three forms of mental and physical actions that correspond most directly to the quality of results we produce. These are 1) belief system (possible or impossible); 2) mental syntax (the way people organize their thought); 3) physiology (the way you breathe, and hold your body, your posture, facial expressions).
Source: Anthony Robbins, Unlimited Power: The new science of Personal Achievement, Simon & Schuster, 1997
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